The uncovering of the group “Bois Locker Room” on Instagram is the saddest, most cringeworthy and easily the scariest example of toxic masculinity, rape culture and misogyny.
This closed group was outed yesterday because it had several hundred boys between aged between 16-20, all belonging to a posh South Delhi school, sharing photos of girls, passing vulgar comments on their bodies, sexualising their body parts and discussing graphic details of dehumanising and objectifying them.
What’s worse is that the women were underage!
Incidents like these are grave reminders that boys cant always have it easy by just “being boys”. Social and mental conditioning begins at home and that’s exactly where we need to teach boys how to be compassionate and respectful, that wanting to be with a girl shouldn’t involve any amount of violence, that respect is the first step to making a move on anyone irrespective of their gender, that wanting to dehumanise, sexually attack or harass a woman is not going to make them “studs”.
We need to raise our boys better so that no young man tomorrow feels victorious in dehumanising a woman.
Don’t forget, patriarchy and equality both begin at home.
If you’re a working woman, Mondays can be overwhelming and can unnecessarily bog you down, leaving you demotivated on the very first day of the week.
Here are some of the things I practice to get through my Mondays.
Sleep well on the Sunday before. To have a good Monday, a good night’s sleep on the Sunday prior is very important. Try hitting the bed before midnight to be up before or around 7 am. Nobody hates a good sunrise.
Whip yourself a great breakfast. Make a meal that will keep you fuelled through the entire day since you probably won’t have time to make lunch as you’d be moving in and out of calls/ presentations/ video meetings.
Let fluids grace your desk These should ideally include antioxidant-rich fluids like coconut water, buttermilk and fresh juices. If you don’t have these, don’t fret. Drink plenty of water instead. Avoid caffeinated drinks even though you own the best coffee in the world. Fluids are excellent stress quenchers as they keep your entire body cool.
Do nothing for 2 minutes but this. Every 2 hours, put your phone on airplane mode, sit down in a comfortable position, close your eyes and take deep breaths. 2 minutes is all it takes for your body to ease out. This activity has helped me in most situations and I believed stressed-out days of the week are no different.
Having said that, try working at one stretch and take fewer breaks. This helps keep your productivity high and lets you wind up work sooner/ on time.
Use some ambient/ chill/ space music to concentrate and work better. Here are some playlists that I use. And they’re mind numbing good. I mean, literally. Playlist 1, Playlist 2, Playlist 3
Stop stressing. Repeat after me, stop stressing. This is just another Monday and like all Mondays, this too shall pass.
The above has been documented following my personal experience of getting through the lockdown for over 50 days now.
Hope this article helps make your Mondays a breeze!
Major depression happening today. I couldn’t make myself a decent meal to begin with and am downed in a never ending spiral of unrewarding work. I’ve developed a horrid back pain because of yoga gone wrong and I can’t gather myself to sit at one place for long before looking for another. To top it, I made this amazing video which I couldn’t put online cos it uses music from a French film and apparently violates Instagram’s copyright guidelines.
How many days did you say we’re still left for the lockdown?
Our 21 days of getting into the habit loop are bearing fruit in the form of us making absolute peace with extended days of the lockdown.
For instance, dressing only waist up for Zoom meetings while having boxers below is oddly satisfying. We’re marvelling at our increased productivity from home. We’re enjoying stealing afternoon naps between calls. We’re loving having homemade chai while working on presentations.
Our makeup essentials are neatly tucked away. Our blazers and boots are ghost dressing our cupboards. Our terraces have made friends with our neighbor’s terraces. Our lives strangely find themselves at home when a pandemic has disrupted everything outside.
There’s a steady routine setting in and we’re not complaining.
The current count of people affected by Covid-19 as of today stands at 2,014,009, with 127,594 dead. 3 months back, we didn’t know the virus existed.
What we do know is this (pulled from various publishers online):
Kids born during Covid-19 would be called Gen C.
More transmissible and fatal than seasonal influenza, the new coronavirus is also stealthier, spreading from one host to another for several days before triggering obvious symptoms. To contain such a pathogen, nations must develop a test and use it to identify infected people, isolate them, and trace those they’ve had contact with. That is what South Korea, Singapore, and Hong Kong did to tremendous effect. It is what the United States did not.
The only clear endgame is to play whack-a-mole with the coronavirus, suppressing it until a vaccine can be produced. With luck, that will take 18 to 24 months. During that time, new outbreaks will probably arise. Much about that period is unclear, but the dozens of experts agree that life as most people knew it cannot fully return.
Staying home and taking other distancing measures are “an important way of slowing down the spread of the virus and buying time,” WHO director-general Tedros Adhanom Ghebreyesus, PhD, Tweeted recently. But to truly do away with the virus, Ghebreyesus went on to say, “we need to attack the virus with aggressive and targeted tactics—testing every suspected case, isolating and caring for every confirmed case, and tracing and quarantining every close contact.“
Italy and Spain offer grim warnings about the future. Hospitals are out of room, supplies, and staff. Unable to treat or save everyone, doctors have been forced into the unthinkable: rationing care to patients who are most likely to survive, while letting others die. The U.S. has fewer hospital beds per capita than Italy. By the end of the summer, the pandemic will have directly killed 2.2 million Americans, notwithstanding those who will indirectly die as hospitals are unable to care for the usual slew of heart attacks, strokes, and car accidents. In India itself, people have died of hunger, starvation, suicides and walking on the road during the mass exodus of migrant labourers when PM Modi announced the nationwide lockdown on 24th March, without any preparedness.
Even a perfect response won’t end the pandemic. As long as the virus persists somewhere, there’s a chance that one infected traveller will reignite fresh sparks in countries that have already extinguished their fires. This is already happening in China, Singapore, and other Asian countries that briefly seemed to have the virus under control. Under these conditions, there are three possible endgames: one that’s very unlikely, one that’s very dangerous, and one that’s very long.
The second is that the virus does what past flu pandemics have done: It burns through the world and leaves behind enough immune survivors that it eventually struggles to find viable hosts. This “herd immunity” scenario would be quick, and thus tempting. But it would also come at a terrible cost: SARS-CoV-2 is more transmissible and fatal than the flu, and it would likely leave behind many millions of corpses and a trail of devastated health systems. The United Kingdom initially seemed to consider this herd-immunity strategy, before backtracking when models revealed the dire consequences.
Much of the next few weeks will involve “watching and waiting” the way other countries around the world handle the pandemic – to see how they respond and the outcomes of their strategies. India is on its second phase of implementing the nationwide lockdown right now.
In the meantime, keep practising social distancing, self -isolation, wearing masks in public, washing your hands and practising all the hygiene and lifestyle habits you’ve been hearing over and over.
Since Prime Minister’s Modi’s address this morning at 10 where he further requested us all to stay indoors for another 18 days, I’ve been feeling an unusually depressing sense of inertia setting in.
We all know how we’ve all been brutally affected by the pandemic. People are losing jobs and getting fired at the drop of a hat. Numerous others in separate parts of the world are falling like a house of cards as the numbers of the sick and infected show no chances of reducing. South Korea, on the other hand, has reported cases of resurgence. That’s like having another powerful invisible enemy when we’re not even halfway through defeating the first one.
I was one of the first people to be affected by the pandemic.
It almost cost me my job. But it only cost me my job, not my life. And hence I should consider myself a lot more fortunate than thousands of others. Why?
I’m fortunate to be able to type this on my Macbook with an internet speed of 100/Mbps.
I’m fortunate to be able to surrounded by people who love me and remained forever armed with a strong support system to see me through.
Yes, I’m quite damn fortunate that I have the option of choosing between the stock of vegetables from my refrigerator and languishingly cook my meals every single day. The lockdown may have almost cost me my job, but a job can always bounce back once the economy bounces back.
I know it’s asking for a lot but that’s the kind of faith we need to maintain right now. I know its wishing for the impossible but that’s the kind of hoping we need to do right now. And i know its rather far fetched but we’ve gotta look beyond this and tell ourselves that a better, calmer and more humbled world awaits us on the other side.